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don’t pander to the crowd.
never pander to others.
doing so strips you of your authenticity, and thus, your ability to connect with others.
everyone knows when someone is being fake or repressing parts of themselves. everyone spots a people pleaser from a mile away. and no one really respects them.
so why do it? why waste energy trying to appease others?
be yourself. you’re pretty fucking awesome.
3 quotes
"Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don't give up." - Anne Lamott
“When Solving Problems, the Older the problem, the older the solution” - Naval
“How can you live with no story to tell?” - Dostoevsky
2 questions
what is something you’re half-committed to?
how have you been an asshole to yourself this week?
1 musing
self love is not possible without self hate.
i dont know about you guys, but im sick of all these annoying instagram girlie influencers preaching self love and shouting affirmations in the mirror.
“yOuvE goTTa LoVe yOuRseLF bEfOrE yOU cAn bE loVEd bY oThErS”
and while thats true, self-love doesn’t always look like bubble baths and shitty Uber Eats orders.
self-love is holding yourself to a higher standard.
self-love is believing in yourself to be great.
self-love is toiling, struggling, striving to get towards your dream life.
self-love is hard.
it shouldn’t come easily.
it CANNOT come easily.
in order to love yourself, there must be a point in which you hated or were dissatisfied with yourself. and it is only by leaning into that hate that we can come out the other end.
to love oneself, one must hate themselves first.
there is no way around this.
this is the way.
it’s okay to be dissatisfied with yourself.
it’s not okay to stay dissatisfied.
change for the better.
you can.
media:
Music: Super Strut by Deodata
Book: Beasts and Beauty by Soman Chaiani
My Podcast, Figuring it Out - How to Have Lifechanging Conversations - Jack Roath
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