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happy new year.

a new years edition of 2024 of pure reflection and setting yourself up for success.

1. what are you leaving behind in 2023?

2. what are you continuing in 2024?

3. how can you be kinder to yourself in 2024?

my answers:

1. i will leave behind my judgemental attitude.

i am a very odd person. the way my mind works is… unique, to say the least. not better, not worse, just different.

i guess that’s what a hint of Aspberger’s, Nietzsche at 15, and 3am scribbling sessions does to a fool.

my uniqueness means i’m quite separated from people. as a result, i can get judgy. now, i’m not socially anxious or asocial. i quite love people. i love them oh so dearly, but i sometimes find it difficult to relate. and then, i judge.

as a result, i create stories, preconcepts, and assumptions about people. they can be false. utterly false.

due to these fantasies, i’m not always interacting authenticlaly with someone, but rather, interacting with my projection of someone. interacting with the fictional character of that person that i’ve created in my mind, but not the actual person.

thus, we are disconnected. i cannot learn from them. i cannot build a meaningful bond with them. and i cannot truly understand them.

thus, my judginess hurts my relationships.

i will leave that behind in 2024.

2. i will continue to listen.

the last 5 months of 2023, i listened, asked questions, and learned a lot about human nature from others.

it is not mistake that we humans have two ears and one mouth.

i will continue this practice.

i will listen, ask more questions, and seek to understand people in 2024.

3. i will be kinder to myself by being more flexible with habits and routine.

my natural inclination is to grit my, push through pain, and go for the extra lap around the track.

this is great if you have to run a marathon.

this is not great if you’re running a marathon, trip over yourself, break your leg, shatter your pelvis, knock out a few teeth, and then get up and continue running, dragging behind a pool of blood as you scamper towards the finish line.

i love habit and routine.

however, if i’m sick and exhausted, getting up at 4:45 AM to workout after biking in frigid Bostonian weather is quite detrimental to my physical health.

in 2024, i will be more flexible and act according to how my mind, body, and soul feel.

this doesn’t mean i will abandon habit and routine.

but i will create harmony between rest and going a million miles an hour.

i will be kinder to myself by allowing myself to take a break.

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movie - Human Traffic (1999)

a gang of 5. british humor. lots of drugs. late 90s in Wales. great music. awesome party scenes. fucking hilarious